3 Tips for Teens, Young Adults, & Families Celebrating the Holiday's with Loss in Their Heart

The Holidays are generally a very happy time:

This can really be a magical time of year full of grace, charity, and love.

For some, the Holidays can also bring with it a sense of emptiness due to the loss of a loved one:

It is a noble reason why teens, young adults, and family members who have lost loved ones put on happy exterior. They don't want to take away from the magic of the season for other people. And it can be exhausting. That is grace in action.

However, it is important that those who have lost loved ones and are celebrating the Christmas and Holiday season without them also focus on self-care. There are things that you can do to help make this season more meaningful and to help you through the feeling of hurt from not having the loved one with you to celebrate the season.

For those who may be struggling with grief and loss during this Holiday season, I would like to offer 3 tips on how to incorporate the loved one who is no longer with us during the Holiday season.

Being able to get together as a family and share fond memories of the loved one brings a mix of joy and pain. As teen's are able to talk about what they enjoyed most with the family member, it can bring a sense of closeness and a warmth in their heart as well. This can be healing.

Family members can reminisce about the funny things their loved one used to do. The kindness the loved one showed to others. The love they shared in their unique ways. Lessons you learned from them being in your life.

Feelings are always seeking a way out. If we hold them in it's like a pressure cooker that doesn't have an escape valve. Eventually it will blow, and those feelings will burst out and usually in non-productive ways.

Talking helps. You may feel the hurt of the loss of a loved one. But your heart will also be filled with love and closeness that invites that loved one back in the home during that time. This can help in the process of working through grief and loss as well.

There may be a temptation to isolate and not be around others during this time of year. It can be hard watching others find joy and happiness which reminds you of the hurt you feel. Being alone can be one of the worst things to do and can cause or deepen depression for teens, young adults, and adults alike.

Being alone you are not distracted, you don't have the opportunity to enjoy being with others, and your mind will likely center on the loss and hurt you feel. This will only intensify the more you isolate yourself from others.

For teens and young adults, find friends that understand what you are going through. If you have close friends that may not understand, you can confide in them the struggles you may be having. They will more than likely understand, and you may find that you also have friends experiencing similar struggles.

For the family, make plans to be with close friends and loved ones. Enjoy that moment in time where you are enjoying people that you love or have fond feelings for. Even that one "crazy uncle" everyone has in the family will at least give you good stories to share for years to come!

While we may have the experience of not having a loved one around during this time, we can focus on what we are grateful for. While we may not have the presence of that loved one, we do have wonderful friends and family in our lives. We can be grateful for them and our relationship with them.

For teens and young adults, spending time with and being grateful for your friends can be a significant help during this time of year. Finding gratitude for your parent(s) and the sacrifices they have made for you to help you be happy and healthy.

Maybe you have a favorite teacher or coach at school that helps you. Finding other areas, in as many other areas as you can, can bring with it a feeling of peace and calm.

I wrote this blog to help others who are struggling during this time of year who have lost loved ones. But this topic is also close to my heart during this time of year due to my own personal experience.

I lost my parents relatively young. My father passed of cancer in 1999 and mom of suicide in 2003. This time of year, each year, every year since, brings with it a bit of those feelings described above. Some years are easier than others, but the feelings are there regardless.

I've come to understand that it's okay -- it may simply be the price of loving someone. But it doesn't mean that there aren't things one can do to lighten the load during this time of year.

Surrounding myself with close friends and family helps take the edge off. I enjoy my time spent with them as we are making new Holiday and Christmas memories that I can look back on year after year.

I have much to be grateful for in my life and think of not just the obvious ones but put some mental energy to think about those things that are a little more obscure and not as obvious.

I also seek professional help if it happens that one year is tougher than another for some reason. Yup, even us seasoned therapists need support from time to time. We are not immune to life's challenges.

Teen therapists, young adult counselors, and family therapists are here to help make this season as joyful and meaningful as possible while also helping you through the grief and loss.

If you may be struggling due to a loss of a loved one, our teen therapists, young adult counselors, and family therapists are here to help. It could be as few as 3-4 sessions to give you someone to talk to during this season.

Or it could be that you find value, help, and healing in those sessions and choose to continue on past this season.

If seeing a therapist may feel like a big leap, please find a trusted friend or family member to talk to. Friends and family WANT to support you and share the load.

You will not be a burden but a blessing in their lives as you give them an opportunity to love and support you.

If you are struggling during this Holiday season, we can help. Our teen counselors, young adult therapists, and family therapists are here to help you work through grief and loss.

If you feel like talking to one of our therapists can help, all you need to do is follow these three simple steps:

At our Katy, Tx location of Katy Teen & Family Counseling, we use counseling approaches that are time tested and shown to work. These approaches have been supported by research and shown to work in the shortest amount of time possible.

In addition to teen therapy, family therapy, and counseling for young adults, we also offer the following therapy and counseling services:

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Anxiety/Panic attacks

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Therapy for trauma

PTSD counseling

Therapy for anxiety

Anxiety/Panic attacks

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We also provide couples counseling and marriage therapy. Life is a journey and sometimes it takes us places that can create strain on a marriage. Marriages and relationships take work.

You have worked hard to build a strong relationship and if that relationship is now struggling, you can work hard with a therapist to strengthen your relationship or marriage.

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Jason Drake is a Licensed Clinical Worker. He specializes in teen therapy, family counseling, and counseling young adults. He has provided therapy to teens, young adults, and families since 2003.

Jason is also Board Certified in Neurofeedback, EMDR trained, and a Certified Brain Health Professional through the Amen Clinics.

Jason helps teens and young adults in the Katy, Tx and Houston area who struggle with ADHD/ADD, depression, anxiety, trauma, PTSD, social anxiety, panic attacks, and other challenges.

He also works with talented teen athletes and Gifted students who experience unique challenges.

Jason uses CBT, EMDR, Neurofeedback, FFT, and Motivational Interviewing. If you would like to learn more, please call or email us.

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