Asking Open-Ended Questions: Tips for Engaging Your Family in Conversation
Families today are busy! Balancing work, school and extra-curricular activities can be a real challenge. Many people feel like there is not enough time in the day.
One of the first things that can go out the window is quality conversations as a family. With all the stress and activities, it can be too easy to overlook the importance of slowing down and communicating as a family.
When was the last time you sat down and had a meaningful conversation as a family?
Close-Ended vs Open-Ended Questions
Depending on the type of question you ask will result in the kind of answer we receive. If we ask questions that invite discussion and elaboration, we may be able to get our teens or young adults to open up and talk a little more.
There are closed ended questions that usually result in limited conversation. Then there are open ended questions that can invite greater discussions.
Closed Ended Questions
As a parent it can be easy to find ourselves asking our teens or young adults quick close-ended questions. Close-ended questions are questions that can be answered with a limited number of responses. These limited responses usually include, "yes", "no" "fine", etc.
These responses do not require much thought. Close-ended questions tend to close down further communication. Here are a few examples of close-ended questions:
"How was your day at school?"
"Do you like that Netflix show?
"Did you sit with someone at lunch?
"How are you feeling?
"Are you upset"
Open Ended Questions
Open-ended questions are designed to open up further conversation. Open-ended questions are structured to prevent someone from answering with a one word response.
Open-ended questions encourage people to think and process before they respond. Here are a few examples of open-ended questions:
"What’s the best part of your day at school? Why?"
"Did you meet anyone new today? What are they like?"
"In your opinion, what is the most useful/entertaining app?"
"If you could invite three people, living or dead, to your birthday party, who would you choose? What would you talk about/do?"
"What five items would you bring with you to a deserted island? Why?"
Find Time to Ask Open-Ended Questions
In the hustle and bustle of life, it's easy to ask close-ended questions. It requires little thought and effort but it also yields unimpressive responses.
As a family therapist, I encourage families to carve out 10-15 minutes each day where each member is asking another person at least one meaningful open-ended question.
This doesn't just fall on the parents. Teenagers and young adults are encouraged to think of good open-ended questions to ask their parents as well.
Asking open-ended questions will deepen the family connection as well as sharpen the family's communication skills. In a world of texting and social media, learning how to ask good questions and learning how to respond appropriately is a very important skill.
Family Therapy Can Help Improve Communication
Some families may have underlying struggles that need to be addressed before they can connect and communicate effectively. An experienced family therapist can help families explore some of their dynamics and learn how to better relate to each other.
A family therapist gives each member an important voice and guides them in understanding their significance in the family unit. Family therapy can help a family communicate in healthier ways in a few brief sessions.
Signing up for family therapy can be a real investment in the health and well-being of each family member.
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About the Author
Quique Autrey is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) and an experienced family therapist.
Quique views each individual through the lens of the family system. Through this lens he provides: teen therapy, young adult counseling, family counseling, marriage counseling & couples therapy.
Quique has helped those who experience depression, anxiety, panic attacks, social anxiety, ADHD/ADD, and is trained in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT).
Quique also has a passion for helping teens, young adults, and adults who may be on the Autism Spectrum. He has a talent for connecting with and helping people with Autism Spectrum Disorder.
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